cruel; can you give me a better idea of what you’re talking about?”—also respects the woman’s privacy and freedom. It remains her decision as to what, if anything, to say. But it also allows her the opportunity to speak about her sin rather than simply confess it. Many times in our ordinary conversations, particularly when we are discussing matters of a personal or private nature, we want to say more but are reluctant to do so. We are uncertain how to proceed. Or we may fear what the reaction to